first thing that went wrong is I set my username to waké to test out whether bonfire supported Unicode in names or not (it should!) and when I pressed enter it saved a username that never typed in
@wak welcome! you can edit your username in the second field (which is limited in what characters are supported, to retain the largest compatibility when federating)
@mayel waké was set in the second field and I pressed save and it didn't alert me with a warning that it deleted any characters. only noticed after it was set